Top Tips to Overcome Laziness in Children

Top Tips to Overcome Laziness in Children

As the parents of two children, we have been fortunate to have two beautiful children who are completely opposites.

However, unlike my eldest daughter, my second child is much more difficult to motivate.

Much to my frustration, we have watched as teachers have recognized his abilities, but getting him to perform is like pulling teeth.

He doesn’t care what other people think, so we have had a difficult time finding ways to inspire him.

This led me to read up on ways I could help, and here are some of the tips that work.

1. RULE OUT HEALTH PROBLEMS

While some kids are intrinsically more active than others, most kids are not naturally lazy.

If your child seems to be tired and unmotivated, this could be for a couple of reasons. As children grow, their bodies need to rest more than usual.

If your child is having a new onset of seeming laziness, give it a little time and let his body grow.

Once his body catches up, he should be back to normal.

If you suspect any medical problems causing laziness, have your child evaluated by a pediatrician to rule out any physical problems.

2. SHORT TERM GOALS AND REWARDS

Don’t criticize your child, but help her find ways to succeed.

With my son, money is not an incentive, so we make up a sticker chart every week.

If he gets his homework done and keeps his bed made, we go on a “date”. Since we have other children, this is usually something as simple as a walk without the other kids, or a trip to the store for a piece of candy.

Find the thing that will drive your children to succeed, and then work it into part of their lives as a goal.

Stickers are sufficient for smaller children, and the older they get, make sure to keep rewards something you can follow through on.

3. PRAISE

Even if your child doesn’t master every goal you have set, lavish him with praise for the things he did well.

Point out how his personal effort equates to achievement.

Praise your child with words that point out their effort being the cause of meeting the goals. This will help them recognize their part in success.

4. KEEP A POSITIVE ATTITUDE

As a parent, you set the tone for your child’s education and lifestyle choices.

If you perceive school as fun and useful, it’s likely your kids will follow suit.

If they see you criticizing, however, it’s going to help them justify actions that are negative towards the school.

5. TIME MANAGEMENT

This one has been a real struggle for my son, who is oblivious to time and deadlines. He is so quiet, that often I don’t realize that he isn’t doing what I asked.

We have formed a chart with what he needs to be doing at certain times in the day, and I must follow through with helping him accomplish it.

This is absolutely essential for survival in the real world, so make sure you find ways to help your kids overcome laziness and manage their time.

6. ENCOURAGE YOUR CHILDREN’S INTERESTS

For a child who would never read and always lazy, I was amazed to discover this little boy interested in trains who had memorized the entire train schedule such as arrival and departure times, names of the stations, different kinds of cars, etc.

If you can find your child’s niche and feed it, learning will become incidental. This is sometimes more difficult in a classroom setting, but communicate your child’s interest to his teachers so they can coax performance out of your child as well.

7. EXTRACURRICULAR ACTIVITIES

Whether you choose this as part of the rewards/short term goals or not, it is up to you, but sometimes your child will flourish if they are allowed an outlet to express their creativity.

You must motivate your child with creative ways to find their passion.

That talent is just waiting to come out.

Get them in group or personal activities that make them happy, and just like us adults; when we are happy, all areas of our life improve.

8. ADJUST YOUR EXPECTATIONS

If you are having a hard time accepting your children’s seeming lack of motivation, learn to embrace it.

There are some children who are just artsy, poetic dreamers, and they can bring joy into your lives in ways you never would have thought up.

Spend extra time learning and motivating your kids, because they will be the ones who come home at the holidays every year, and knowing their passions will bring joy to you and them for your entire lives.

Once you learn and accept that there are some kids who won’t be motivated as how you feel they should be, you are free to enjoy them.

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14 thoughts on “Top Tips to Overcome Laziness in Children”

  1. mmm… Nice one..
    Being a father of two kids, I liked it most..
    Time management is the best advise which I can implement right away to overcome the laziness in my children…

  2. All the 8 points are worth following. But for sure, points 2, 3, 4, 5 and 6 will contribute majorly for success of the child and helps rest of his life as well.
    thanks for putting the points together.

  3. I have tried all of these things and been working on a reward chart to keep my step daughter on track for almost a year. Her previous environment was not healthy and there were no boundaries or expectations. She doesn’t seem to care about the reward or punishment for not fullfilling her weekly tasks. I no longer know what to do. I am trying to embrace her “artsyness” but everyone needs to understand that you can’t just “go with the flow” all the time. Sometimes you have to get done what needs to be done. What now?

  4. My 10 yr old step daughter to be, refuses to do anything. Her attitude is “if it’s not fun, I don’t want to (and doesn’t) do it.” We have tried all of these and nothing. Her attitude is affecting our entire family relationship. Her father and I are at our wits end!

  5. I have three children and regularly run into snags! I set up a rotating chores chart so all three know what they are required to do – and their allowance is dependent on task completion. Check out the book “How to Hug a Porcupine” for excellent advice on raising pre-teens!

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  7. My kid spends 12 hours a day sleeping or napping and wants more. The hours she remains vertical is 7 to 8 hours per day. I went to the doctor and she said this was normal for a 15 year old. I have no credibility with my kid now, and it appears that normal is more like 8 to 10 hours. Can I sue my doctor for misrepresentation of facts?

    1. Jack,
      I’m sorry about your situation. But, I’m neither a lawyer or a doctor to advice you on legal or medical issues. What I can say is,… I too have 13 and 15 year old kids who generally sleep a maximum of 8 to 9 hours or sometimes even less. Why don’t you consult another doctor for a second opinion ?.

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